Frustrations

You want to get too much from doing one thing, then you tend to get frustrated because you often do n’t get it.

If you just take one thing as an experience, then you can gain and lose.

To do one thing and live in life, if your mentality is "experience" rather than "complete", then you will not be so frustrated.

For example, Ma Yun wrote calligraphy for a while, sang at the annual meeting for a while, pulled a bunch of celebrities for a while, and acted as a short film to support him in shooting offense and defense.

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He sings badly, his calligraphy skills are not good, and his acting skills are not good.

But will he feel frustrated?

Not at all, because he didn't care at all. Anyway, he will make money, and he is confident enough. He does not expect any benefit from calligraphy, nor does he hope to rely on acting skills to turn around, and does not rely on singing to make a living.

Because these are just interesting experiences for him, he will not feel any frustration at all.

And if a poor boy runs for decades, he hopes to turn over by acting;

A 13-line little song is hoping to marry Bai Fumei by singing, to the peak of life, then he sings badly, then there is no audience, then it will give him a deep sense of frustration.

The more you want, the easier it is for you to feel frustrated because you often do n’t.

Oh, if you only experience it, then you can gain and lose.

So this is the reason why playing games is addictive, and life is easy to feel frustrated, because playing games, you are just a pure experience, playing is not fun, you will not have too much gains and losses, and you In your own life, your gains and losses are too heavy.

So, this is why it is difficult to do something with purpose.

For example, someone asked me to run, why can I keep running for two or three years. And there is a state of running hi.

Because my running is just a pure experience, and there is no clear purpose. For example, many people are running to lose weight, or to prove their perseverance through running, or to exercise a stronger body to run. They They all run with a clear purpose, so running becomes a burden. Today, after running, he still thinks that I will continue to run for many, many days in the future. It ’s so tiring. In his imagination, he will feel very tired and frustrated.

Or if he didn't run today, then he would feel deeply guilty.

It is because he takes the running thing too seriously and expects to get too much through it, so running becomes a burden, but it is difficult to persevere.

If you just want to experience running, then you do n’t run today, and you do n’t feel much guilty, because if you do n’t run today, you can still run tomorrow, stop and stop.

It's as if you can't insist on playing mobile phones today, so how can you feel frustrated?

Therefore, the best mentality is to " experience" to do one thing, rather than "finish" one thing.

The former is the process, the latter is the result.

Finally, end with Laozi's words:

If you are insulted, you will be in trouble. What is spoiled? To be petty, to be appalled, to be appalled is to be appalled. What is expensive? Why do I have a big patient, have a body for me, and have no body for me? ...

The simple meaning of this passage is that you take yourself too seriously and your gains and losses and honors too much.

So, you get frightened when you get it, and you are frightened when you lose it.

So you will always be in a state of flattery. Full of gains and losses.